Separation of Church and State:
How hard is this? Civil partnerships from the State and Marriage from the Church. Do the civil one for tax, insurance, and benefit purposes. Do the other from the dictates of your conscience in the eyes of your chosen Faith. Do one, both or neither and I could care less. If your chosen faith doesn't extend the sacrament of Marriage to you, sounds like it's your own problem, but it's the end of the argument. Marriage is none of the State's business. The Church instituted the rite and the word, and the State can get bent. People, even Mexico got this one right. C'mon.
P.S. note of caution to Jack Black: Maybe fat people voted for Prop 8, too. Can't be too careful with satire these days.
Obama's Long View: Anyone making small gurgling noises of measured approval for some of Obama's temporary Cabinet appointments is in for a rude surprise in about 5 years. The man is planning for a long haul and will fight his ideological battles in small increments. No need to spook the Right into action so soon; better to lull them back into complacency and give them reasons to doubt Sarah Palin's intelligence. No need to jerk the wheel to the Left while the bus is cruising on autopilot as you learn the finer points of gear-shifting. Bill Ayers learned quite young that direct opposition would not win his objectives, and after 35+ years he is seeing the fruits of his patience. Obama hasn't got Ayers' patience, but he is a man who understands the need for a long range planning.
Speaking of the Long View: please don't be offended, (and you will be anyway, but it's a serious question, not meant to belittle but make one think), but those of you planning on not having children for some sort of intellectual or financial reason, I have a question. Who is going to be taking care of you in your dotage? These girls? There is not enough money in the world to make someone love you and care about you when you're at your most socially helpless state. Just wait until your friendly government employees are charged with your well-being. There will be a health crisis in elder-care and we'll have a government push for euthanasia for all the unwanted elderly in nursing homes. Then, who next? [Caveat: I have no problem with anyone's personal choice in this area. None. They are not "second class citizens in my mind or thoughts. It's just the newer cultural agenda to make childlessness an elitist and "intellectual" choice that makes me question its short-sightedness. It's the ultimate non-sequitur.]
Emotional Flashers: This mostly applies to women who write for the NYT, women bloggers, and the Emo-kid male bloggers. The occasional glimpse into personal life or tragedy is fine. The mundane glories of day-to-day life. Fine. But if you're going to open that trenchcoat and challenge the world to accept you in all your dysfunctional glory, um... no, please. Personal drama, too many details, outrageous family conflict and bodily functions gone awry mean it's time to set your blogspot account to: by invitation only. I know, I know, our blog buddies become our friends and we tell our friends everything. Yes, I have total sympathy for my blog buddies and their issues, as I hope they do for mine. But there are some out there who are just doing it because they desperately want someone to tell them that furries are people, too.
I actually get complaints that folks can't piece together my life and relationships based on my blog posts. That I've shared as much as I have skeeves me out. I try to fiercely protect the privacy of my life, and find other interesting things to share. That's the writing challenge I face because Prince of Tides has nothing on my childhood experience and you've all read it or seen the movie by now. Why try to top Pat Conroy in my blog?
I am so going to catch all kinds of shit for saying this out loud. Bring it. "But I was helped to know that I wasn't alone!" Yeah, I'll grant you that, but this is 2008 and there should be some sort of Internet filter process where you can set your blog to, "yes, I want others to discover that they are not the only ones who were laughed at in school because of excessive sweating, and everyone else can just bugger off." Or at least set one's feed reader to filter out any blog posts containing words like, menstrual, bloating, prostate, piles, pus, acne, or Michelle Obama.
THE ONLY EXCEPTION TO THIS IS THAT YOU MUST MAKE IT HILARIOUSLY FUNNY. Like Christopher Titus funny. And even that is almost more than one can bear.
My first web blog experience was waaayyy back in 2000, having read about them as "new" and clicked on a supplied link to a gay priest's ponderings about whatever drama he was experiencing. It was truly exotic to the point of emotional voyeurism and I was drawn in and then repelled by the vicious responses to his posts. I learned very early that if you must share, make sure only your friends see it. Facebook was invented for this sort of thing, honest.
Saying that, if you see someone has slipped the surly bonds of sanity and has reached out to the vast Unknown Masses by way of blogging about their incestuous uncle or impotent husband or that time spent in jail, please, be a dear, and turn away quickly, or offer the phone number of a good counselor. Trust me, I have stories and revelations and secrets that would set your hair on fire to read about, but I'm fine with how I've moved through them onto healthier planes of existence.
But then, I don't watch Oprah. Who got her start, btw, in Chicago. As did Phil Donahue. As did Bill Ayers. As did Obama. Gah. No wonder we feel the need to share TMI. We've been raised on it.
The Forgotten Allure of Mystery: Young ladies searching for commitment, this is for you, as an extension of the above thought, and for every woman who has been in a long term relationship. Don't give everything away in the first five minutes, or even the first five years of your time together. Don't reveal everything, ever. It's a forgotten art among women, to keep a few PLEASANT surprises just around the next corner of your relationship. Not just physically, but in wise and joyful things, too. Sure, the Internet is full of fantastical competition for his lazier thoughts, but the constant and engaging doubt that he hasn't seen it all still drives him back to the keyboard. Never let him think he's seen it all.
My challenge is to make my blog like that.
Separation of Church and State:I KNOW it's not technically in the Constitution, but does anyone with a brain think that even matters anymore? It's another point the Left has won, and the smart move would be for Christians to use it as a weapon to fight back on Gay Marriage. Get the State out of the Sacraments of the Church, unless you want the tax collector giving Last Rites at your deathbed. ("Pay Up. Amen.") Public schools are already providing Confirmation and Baptism into the tenets of the Left, and Greenpeace and Algore are presiding over Holy Orders into the priesthood of Gaia. But seriously, the only reason we're not seeing a sensible solution to this is because of the political footing to be gained on both sides by being unreasonable.